Four Signs He’s Not Committed to You

By Mary Campbell

Commitment means different things to different people. Maybe, you are looking for marriage, living together or being in a steady, monogamous relationship. And try as you may, you just can’t seem to get your guy to take things to the next level; you know, commit. Whether you’ve already invested just a few dates into this man, or weeks or months, you want to know if you’re wasting your time, right? Now you are looking for signs to decide if you should bail out or keep the fame of hope. Whether or not a man claims to be committed to you, there are certain actions that will tell you if he is or isn’t. Here are four clear signs a man isn’t committed to you.

1. He’s inconsistent
When he’s around, the man you like might be attentive and interested. But then he disappears for days, and you’re left feeling confused. A man who is interested and committed won’t simply disappear for periods of time and comes back when it suits him and his schedule. If he’s committed, he will make you a priority. That means he will check in with you even if he doesn’t have time for a long discussion. If he’s not pursuing you, he’s not committed to you.

2. He doesn’t mention you in any future plans
If you’ve been dating a guy for a while, even casually, and he doesn’t mention you in future plans, he’s probably not committed to you. If he’s planning a camping trip in a couple of months and doesn’t ask you along, he probably doesn’t expect to be seeing you then or he wants to keep his options open. A man who is committed to you wants you around, so he will work you into his plans. If he’s going to a wedding in six might, he’ll ask you to be his date.

3. He’s vague about his life
A man who isn’t committed to you or your relationship, won’t let you into his life. He’ll be vague about where he’s been and who he’s been with. This might be because he simply doesn’t want you in his life that much or has something to hide. If he’s dating other women, he might not be open about these details. A man who is committed to you will want to include you in his life. He won’t need to be pressed for details about what he’s been doing because he will offer them freely.

4. He’s not reliable
A man who is committed to you will want you to know you can count on him no matter what. He will not be late or stand you up for dates. If he will be late or can’t make it, he will let you know as soon as possible with a good reason. A man who isn’t committed to you doesn’t care about checking in with you if he can’t make it. He might blow it off as no big deal. If he doesn’t value your time and care about your feelings, he’s not committed to you.

As a sidenote, new data from YouGov reveals that millennials (those aged 18 to 34, according to the survey) are actually more interested in the prospect of a relationship than older generations. The data revealed:

•That millennials are far more likely to seek a committed relationship than those 34 and older.

•The inverse is also true, with individuals 55 and older saying they prefer the single life and have little interest in relationships.

•This data counteracts many stereotypical notions about millennials and the hookup culture of today’s youth.

If you’re interested in a man, but he’s not committed to you, you might be wasting your time. Looking at a man’s actions will tell you everything you need to know about his level of commitment to you. Your move! Waste not another second on this guy if he’s not right for you.